This past year, many of my clients, friends, and family have talked about the lonely ache they feel.
I, too, have felt lonely and a deep longing for community. There have been moments when it seemed that nothing could soothe me.
And, like never before, I’ve had to draw on my inner resources for self-comfort, self-connection, self-care, and self-healing.
So, I decided to get creative, intimate, and surrender to myself and my company.
In the process, I’ve filled the lonely absence by nourishing my soul and deepening my self-love, self-acceptance, and self-appreciation.
Whether you are single or not (sometimes it can feel incredibly lonely when you’re in a relationship), turn up the volume on loving hard and intimately with yourself and try these 20 intimate things.
Let me know how it goes, and please share your intimate-self moments that would deliciously add to this list.
- Hug yourself tight for ten minutes, and don’t let go.
- Cry. Give yourself permission to cry, release, and let your tears flow.
- Scream, “Fuuuuuuuck!!!!” out loud outside. Be careful not to hurt your throat. Scream from your gut and then gargle with warm saltwater. Depending on how far you take your screaming, don’t speak for the rest of the day/night.
- Create a luxurious bath with bubbles, essential oils, candles, music, and flowers. While sitting in the tub, touch every part of your body, giving thanks. If you can kiss each part, go for it!
- Listen to music that completely lights up your soul, makes your heart smile, and dance in front of a mirror.
- Create an altar.
- Make sensual love to yourself. Lovingly touch and seduce yourself, but don’t orgasm. Use this powerful energy to create and motivate yourself to complete that project you’ve wanted to finish.
- Hold a baby picture of yourself in your hands and send love, love, love to your little one.
- Sit in front of a window with your favorite beverage and watch what goes on outside.
- Look at yourself in the mirror, deep into your eyes, and say, “I love you, (say your name).” Repeat and notice what comes up for you.
- Every day write down three things you love about yourself.
- Fucking REFUSE to engage in negative self-talk. When you hear a negative thought, change the channel and replace it with a positive thought. Put strong, exciting emotions into your new thought and feel this new thought throughout your Being.
- Wear your favorite fun, sexy, loud outfit.
- Lie on your back, one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Bring your awareness to your breath in your belly, close your eyes, and breathe deeply into your belly.
- Lie on your back and spread your arms and legs open like a starfish. Feel your body on the floor, close your eyes, and breathe.
- Turn off all of your lights, put on a dark, hypnotic electronic track, turn it up loud, sit in front of the speakers and then bring all of your awareness to what you hear. Don’t think. Just listen and feel the vibration reverberate throughout your Being. Here are some suggestions: Teste — The Wipe & Gotham.
- Sit in a crossed-legged position and imagine a flame, light, sun, star, full moon in your pelvis. Expand your light and illuminate every cell in your body.
- Laugh at yourself out loud!!!
- Do some really fucking silly shit. Make funny faces and take pictures, make yourself dizzy, do the funky chicken in your kitchen or while showering, wake up your inner child and let that little one come out and play.
- Sit outside and daydream, fantasize about what you truly want. See it. Feel it. Hear it. Smell it. Taste it.
Be well. Be free.
